I'm not really sure what to say here. It feels selfish to say "I'm hurt" - when clearly - I'm not a victim, and to say that would be to steal a portion of the betrayal, and scar that those poor little boys paid a heavy price for. Can you really put a price on innocence? On childhood? On safety? On trust?
But I do feel sad, and betrayed. By those who told us to hold ourselves to the highest standard. They built Happy Valley on this idea... yet behind closed doors - did the unthinkable, the bare minimum, turned the other way, and did NOT rise up and practice what they preached.
The news of the Penn State scandal has run deep with me this week. Having been a student-athlete, Lion Ambassador, participant in THON, a member of the Football Recruiting program (which meant I spent a fair amount of time in and around the team, staff and facilities where this all went down), a friend to many of the wives of the coaches/football personnel and a very Penn State Proud Alumna all these years... this is very, very hard to comprehend.
On Monday... I felt compelled to do this... (horrible iPhone photo, I know)
I knew my flag was out flying - as it has been all season - and I felt like taking it down totally. I felt such shame for what has happened. Like, letting it up there would be a symbolic show of ignorance, or worse - condonement.
But then I thought of all the good that Penn State was and is and ALWAYS will be for so many. The lives that have been changed because of things like THON. And even though a well defined lump sits solidly planted in the back of my throat, my pride burns ever still.
So I went half way with it.
The collective culture that is "Penn State" is not to blame - those in the highest seated positions, yes - but the "body of Blue and White believers" - certainly not. And I sincerely feel that what really defines a people is what they DO in the face of hardship. Penn State will rise again, I believe that. I have to.
And I also have to believe that justice will prevail and those responsible for doing the cowardly, and downright deplorable acts that are alleged here - will take responsibility for their actions and dedicate their lives to eradicating other such instances of neglect and abuse in their communities.
I read an article yesterday that I feel like sharing here - written by a pastor at one of the most well attended churches in the area (I used to attend a ladies Bible Study there)...
SAD VALLEY
The statistics of abused children (just in their area) is a staggaring thing to come to grips with... I almost shudder to think what the number is for where I live. I would venture it's about the same as central pa... 1 in 4 little girls...? 1 in 6 little boys...? tragic. Just tragic. As a parent of two little ones of my own - it's the absolute scariest thought I have.
But it's not something you should ignore. I'd rather be paranoid - than complacent, any day of the week.
SO anyway - I'm just gonna take a minute here and be sad... and watch and see how this all unfolds...
and PRAY.
and PRAY.
and PRAY.
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. (Matthew 11: 28-31)